OK, I guess we all have a positive Bucket List, things we want to do, places we want to see before we die. I used to have a list of 108 things… some tiny (get an African violet to bloom), some big (go to Greece). But as I get older, my Bucket List is down to one—keep breathing.
What has grown though, is a reverse Bucket List, things that no longer interest me, things I don’t want to do anymore. Here are five of mine and see if they match yours:
- I no longer want to go to big parties. Chat, not conversation, reigns at parties, but I don’t care what sign people are or what they think of the weather.
- I want to be in bed by 9 and not necessarily with Robert Redford. A good book rather than a good roll in the hay now that I am turning 80. My husband does not agree with item #2. Never has, never will. Testosterone is immortal.
- I don’t want to kill time. What is time that I should kill it? Hell, it’s the most precious thing I have, which gets me to #4…
- I don’t want to waste time with events, concerts, seminars, movies, lectures or lunches with anyone I don’t like, with people whose thoughts and behavior are now way outside my values radar. Gerontologists call this “social selectivity” and they observe it in older folks. We stick with family and people who have meaning for us and let the rest go. We have no social time to waste.
- I can no longer watch long newscasts, those daily doses of depression. It is much faster to keep up with the world by reading online papers, thus limiting the daily dose, but still keeping my aging head out of the sand. So what’s your Reverse Bucket List? What no longer interests you? What do you now consider a waste of time? Please post and share. Thanks. Mel